What Makes Someone Qualified to Give Advice?

Have you noticed the “life coach” trend that’s popped up in the last decade? I’m sure they’ve been around longer than that, but it’s become the go-to profession for every stay-at-home mom on the internet, it seems. A lot of these coaches have never accomplished anything in their own lives so I’m unsure as to what inspires people to take their advice. It comes in all flavors: fitness tips from obese people drinking overpriced shakes, career advice from single moms trying to juggle 3 jobs to make ends meet, and so on. So what exactly does qualify someone to give someone else advice? It is said that we can often see solutions to other people’s problems better than our own, but is this actually true or are we just judging them and projecting our desires upon them?

This question has been important to me lately because I’ve fallen into a few positions in which I am required to give advice. First, I am becoming a peer recovery coach so that I can give back to the community that has so graciously saved my life while simultaneously giving my own life a sense of purpose (everything is, after all, selfish in the end). What gives me the right to give advice on sobriety though? Yes, I am sober and will likely continue to be forever. I don’t know how to give advice on that though. Unlike most alcoholics I meet, a switch was flipped in my brain and I simply do not crave alcohol anymore. That’s not to say my addiction issues are cured, I’m still addicted to a plethora of things that are bad for me.

Second, I’ve been given a lot of responsibility at work for training other people and developing them as employees, particularly in my old department. I feel more qualified to do this than to give life advice because in all modesty I did absolutely kill it at that job. I have a very hard time enunciating what needs to be done, though. Perhaps that is just practice. It must be.

This is just me thinking aloud and trying to figure out what I want to do, don’t mind me! My first day at my second job is tomorrow and I am very excited. Working retail is so much more fun when you don’t have to be doing it. I think a lot of my positive attitude toward it is in realizing that I’m taking action and doing something to better my life above and beyond the ordinary. I could easily just work my full time job and just get by paying bills but I want to get ahead in life. I want to be somebody some day. I want it all.

Just a terrible pic from the gym this morning ๐Ÿ˜…

My heart hasn’t really been in this blog ever since the depression episode, so if my writing and design of my posts seems like it’s been lacking, it totally has. That happens to me… I’ll have all of these fun hobbies I start getting really good at, then the depression hits and even after it passes I still have almost no interest in those hobbies any more. I’m trying to stick through it though and hope that it comes back. I do feel a bit more motivated today than I have for the past several posts… but not motivated enough to do any editing and whatnot.

16 thoughts on “What Makes Someone Qualified to Give Advice?

  1. When you are asked for advice or asked to train someone, it is because you have either had the experience, or you know what you are doing. It’s tough being an introvert in a leadership role. I learned working in the service industry, that you take on a cheerful and helpful persona. After awhile it just becomes natural.

    You have already accomplished so much in your life, so you can do this too. Good luck! ๐Ÿ™‚

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  2. Life coaches are usually consist of young people which I think is hilarious in a way. 22 year olds giving 40 year olds advice. I feel like these numbers need to be flipped. A 22 year old has not really had enough experience to call themselves โ€œqualified.โ€ Life coach is a term many MLM companies use. You see it more and more often because people are signing up for MLM in a desperate attempt to make some cash. You are right; they are usually stay at home moms or Millennials just trying to make some money. These people also spend a great deal of time on social media trying to peddle their products because thatโ€™s what their uplines tell them to do. Post, annoy, rinse, repeat.

    P.S. I joined an MLM company once so I know what kind of stuff happens behind closed doors. Run for the hills!

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      1. That’s so nice of you to help your friend, and at least you knew what you were getting yourself into. Too bad you can’t block the spam. I do not spam from the company I joined and I quit in 2016. I stayed with them for 3 and a half years, barely breaking even. I sold supplements but was unable to recruit even one person, so my uplines weren’t too happy about that.

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    1. “Post, annoy, rinse, repeat.” LOL, love it!
      You’re right, whatever happened to respecting the wisdom of the older generation? We spend a lifetime learning life’s lessons only to find ourselves full of advice for people who roll their eyes and consider us irrelevant. (Not always the case for me, but I’ve observed it in a general sense.)

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      1. The company I was with (Max International) used to tell us to follow the 4 steps of selling products so I applied that to the above, “post, annoy, rinse, repeat.” Some of the associates/life coaches etc. don’t necessarily enjoy pestering people to buy from them, but they do it because they have to in hopes of making money. These days, Millennials only seem to care advertising and sponsors, even if the product quality is poor and the information is dishonest. I agree with you; we could learn so much more by taking advice from our elders rather than trusting some random sales person on social media.

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  3. You are a cute young man!! I am glad you got the second job, as it gets you out and connected!
    I agree with the whole life coach thing. I had a good one that helped me get connected!
    Some are not. Just like I had some horrible therapists, and some good ones!

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  4. I would say that you can give advice as long as you and the other person are aware of your position on the topic. For example there are a few people I work with that seem interested in writing. While I’m not a “blogging expert” I know that I still have some experience and as long as they’re aware of my non-expert status I can give them tips on writing. I still make it clear that I probably don’t know what I’m talking about though!

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  5. Hmm…๐Ÿค”well, I will admit that this life coach thing is getting out of hand. Everybody and their mama is claiming to be a life coach!๐Ÿ˜ It seems like it’s potentially easy money I guess. But, on the other hand, some of these people young or old could have had a back story you have no clue of. Some youth have been through more than we’ve been through our whole lives. Experience has no age. And…. homemakers, too. You have no clue who they were, or what they went through beforehand. The most important thing is that people mentor on something they have experience with, and not just talking out of their ass.๐Ÿ™„โ˜บ๏ธ

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  6. I look to those that are on the path in front of me. When I was new to recovery, it was easy to find the help. Today, the path is less cluttered and fewer marathoners. I listen to all, but generally follow the advice and guidance of those close to me and been sober longer than me.

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  7. I think when you have the experience and knowledge you can be a true support for people who are struggling with those things. Because you can connect with them on a level a person without that experience can’t. Everything has his time and place. That seems to be also the difficulty with ‘life’-coaches. You can’t be an expert at ‘living’, life has too many topics. When life-coaches stay in their lane, they can be motivating and helpfull. But they need to be cautious on what they advice and to whom. With giving advice comes a certain responsibilty.

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